#1 Tip for Improving your Marriage – Commitment No Matter What

No matter what!  He just doesn’t give me enough attention…no matter what.  She is always nagging me…..no matter what. I need some space and time with friends….No matter what.  She doesn’t treat me right…No matter what. I am supposed to be happy, right, and do what is best for me….No matter what.

I wish 7 years ago when Will and I visited a marriage counselor that the lady sitting in front of us would have responded with…No matter what.  We have seen three different counselors.  Each one of them tore us apart, made us deal with issues that we didn’t even know we had, and raised questions about whether we would be better off not in a marriage.  No matter what.  What if Christian counselors responded with…toughen up, no matter what.

Some of you are thinking, but what if.  What if she cheats?  What if he abuses me?  My answer and my opinion is that cheating and abuse are the exceptions.  Now, in the case of cheating I do still believe it can work.  Abuse however, I have a no tolerance policy for.

So, when you post on Facebook that your marriage is falling apart, or you are contemplating what life is like on that “greener” side,  I say to remember this: NO MATTER WHAT!

There, I said it.  Time to toughen up.  I wish someone had told me that.  In some ways I am grateful that it took a few years for someone to finally say it.  Our marriage is stronger because of our trials, however, we could have saved alot of pain and money if only we have said No Matter What.

1 Corinthians 13:4-13 Love is patient and kind; love  does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its  own way; it is not irritable or resentful;it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but  rejoices with the truth.  Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes  all things, endures all things.  Love never ends. As for prophecies, they  will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass  away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when the perfect comes,  the partial will pass away. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought  like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish  ways. For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in  part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known. So now faith,  hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love

I pray that each and everyone of you are blessed in your marriages and relationships today.  It is never too late to say NO MATTER WHAT!

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Blessing to all,